Sex toys: do you need them,how to choose them
Types of sex toys for women, men, and couples, recommendations for choice and care and tips for beginners
Why try sex toys?
“Everything should be natural,” some will say. “But what is the point in the naturalness without orgasm,” others will object. So the first reason is banal: pleasure. This is particularly true of women who find it difficult to achieve orgasm without strong clitoral stimulation, and men who are inclined to come to the finish line too quickly.
The second reason is also not very original. Sex toys make a difference in the lives of people without a pair. Of course, they will not be able to completely replace a living person (although sex-robot manufacturers work in this direction), but the gray daily routine will definitely brighten up.
The same goes for people who have been in a relationship for a long time. A little variety in sex will only refresh the union.
In the end, even the purchase of sex toys can turn into a small adventure. Provided that for this you will go together not too specialized sites, but to the store for adults. Well, if it’s not a routine for your couple.
How to choose sex toys
The newcomer can get confused in the world of sex toys. Therefore, the optimal solution for starting is to determine which zone and what type of stimulation you are most interested in and choose the most simple model. Hurrying with the purchase of a multifunctional and expensive device, you run the risk of wasting money. Start with the basics. After this, it becomes clear where to move on and whether you need it at all.
A good tip will also be useful feedback. They will help you to get a better idea of the future purchase.
For those who want to test as many devices as possible – advice: start with cheap products. For a long time, they are not good, but they clearly demonstrate what’s what. After that, you can choose a better model.
Materials of Sex toys
It is believed that the best are devices made of non-porous materials: silicone, glass and stainless steel. Their structure does not allow bacteria to penetrate inside. For owners, this means ease of maintenance, safety, and long operation.
ABS plastic, thermoplastic elastomer (TPE) and thermoplastic rubber (TPR) are generally hypoallergenic and safe. But they are related to porous materials, so require more careful care and caution when using.
The greatest danger is products made of PVC, jelly, and vinyl, which can contain harmful to the body chemicals (phthalates and others).
Latex is also a controversial material. It can cause allergies, have an unpleasant odor and, in addition, is not very durable.
How to add toys to the sexual life of a couple
We already wrote about how to tell a partner about their desire. But for sex toys, there are a few more rules.
First, discuss with the partner the possibility of using such devices. Be tactful that he does not have suspicions that you are monstrously dissatisfied with your sex life.
Before you enter the device into a common game, test it yourself. The unsuccessful first impression can for a long time discourage the desire to try again.
In any case, start using the toy better gently and gently. In the beginning, it is especially important to have feedback in order to find the best way to use it.
If you have been a fan of toys for a long time and want to introduce a new partner to them, choose the right moment for this meeting. At the first sexual contact, it’s better not to bewit with such a message: new impressions are enough. But it’s also not too much to delay, otherwise, you may get the impression that you are keeping a shameful secret.
- Read the instructions before use. So the risk of all kinds of excesses will be significantly reduced.
- Remember the rules of hygiene. Always wash your hands before and after using toys. The toys themselves also need to be washed (preferably with antibacterial soap) and stored in a clean place. Separate devices require special cleaning, so do not forget about the first paragraph.
- Dry toys better open way. If you do not have this opportunity, use a towel. But before you hide the devices, make sure that every detail and every nook is dry.
- Try to use condoms. Especially if your toy is porous. Otherwise, you can reward yourself with some kind of disease.
- Do not use the same toy for the anal, and then immediately for vaginal penetration (and vice versa). There is a serious risk of getting an infection. However, condoms can solve this problem.
- If you use intimate lubricants, remember: for silicone products, water-based lubricants are suitable. Other lubricants can damage the toy. Lubricant itself, by the way, is better to test first on the skin and make sure that it does not cause you an allergic reaction.
Types of sex toys
We proceed to the most interesting: what are sex toys. The division here is rather conditional: many devices can be used by women, men, and both partners at once. But for simplicity of perception, we divided them into three groups.
Sex toys for women
The meaning follows from the name: a dildo is an imitation of the phallus. Without vibration, pulsation and other pleasant properties. Designed for vaginal and anal stimulation (sometimes both of them together). Depending on the configuration, it can also stimulate the clitoris and the point G.
There are very realistic models and those that do not outwardly resemble the penis, although with their functions are coped no worse. Some of them are equipped with a suction cup or a handle. There are also two-sided models for sharing.
Sex toy, which allows you to achieve orgasm due to vibration in the most sensitive areas. Modern models have several modes, they can move, change shape, respond to ambient sounds and be controlled via a mobile application.
A vibrator bullet is a small toy that can be used as an independent device, placed inside a dildo or attached to an anal plug (suitable for certain models).
The pulsator is a close relative of the vibrator. The device creates a pulsation, simulating the movements of the real partner.
These devices are designed for external stimulation, without deep penetration. As a rule, they act due to vibration. The classical version is a butterfly, which is attached to the body with the help of special straps.
Also, there are toys that mimic oral sex.
And vacuum stimulators, which are also designed to recreate the sensations of oral sex.
The toy performs two main functions: reduces the size of the vagina and works as an anal stimulant. As the second can be used and a man.
Sex toys for men
A true friend of a bachelor. Different models imitate vaginal, oral or anal penetration and have a different internal structure. Can look very realistic, representing certain parts of the body, or … not really.
Some models vibrate and have suction properties that enhance sensations.
By the way, for fans to combine pleasant with pleasant there is such a stand for a tablet and a masturbator.
Sex dolls and sex robots
Option for those who do not accept half measures. However, to use it, you need to be either fairly well-to-do or very undemanding. Because silicone dolls that look really like people are expensive, and cheap inflatables look so comical that you can only admire them by packaging.
Sex robots – this is a completely different level of imitation (and price). They move, blink, make sounds and even speak a little. The list of human features is inexorably growing. Experts do not rule out that in the future, sex with robots will become common for people. But while this can only be dreamed of.
Note: dolls and robots for women also exist, but so far manufacturers are more focused on the male audience. That’s why we put these anthropomorphic creatures in the section “For Men”.
The erection ring
A toy that strengthens the erection and its duration. Modern models often vibrate, giving pleasure to both partners. There are also options with a double fixation for the penis and scrotum
Nozzle on the penis
This device performs two functions at once: prolongs the erection and intensifies the vaginal (depending on the model and clitoral) stimulation due to the relief surface.
There is another kind of attachment – to increase the penis.
This toy can be used as an independent device, for additional stimulation during sex and even strengthen male sexual health. There are models with vibration and without.
For use in a pair, the configuration with an erection ring is convenient.
Sex toys for both partners
Of course, in the love games, you can use traditional vibrators, but there are those that are suitable for this better. For example, such a model stimulates the clitoris, point G and leaves room for penetration, which, thanks to vibration, gives extra pleasure to the man.
Vibro-egg is a mini device, which is more often positioned as a product for women, but it can be a toy for a couple. Especially if it is equipped with a control panel. You can use the egg for vaginal, clitoral, anal stimulation, caressing them with the scrotum, penis, and perineum – in general, as fantasy tells.
Less bulky, but no less interesting option – vibro-attachments on the fingers. In fact, turn your hands or partner’s hands into a vibrator. Simple and ingenious.
A pair of vibrators is two devices connected by magnets. Disconnecting them, we get a vibrator for a man and a vibrator for a woman.
Manufacturers of sex toys think about partners who are at a distance. For them, devices are created that can communicate via the Internet or Bluetooth. Each of the parts of the device (in the photo a masturbator for a man and a vibrator for a woman) conveys the partner’s touch to his own toy. It turns out the real cybersex.
Dildo, which is attached to a partner. There are models with straps and without. In the second case, the active partner receives anal stimulation.
Another option for a non-stressful strapon for anal penetration. It is fixed with the help of erection rings.
These devices work by evacuating air. They are not a pair toy in the classical sense (although you can experiment), but they are suitable for both partners, as there are models for men and women.
Male pumps are designed to increase the penis and restore the erection. They are also suitable for masturbation and foreplay.
Female options – pumps for the chest, vagina, and clitoris. The first two also train the muscles of the chest and vagina.
Unisex-toy for anal stimulation, made of balls of different sizes. The penetration depth can be controlled by the partner.
Accessories and related products
It’s already not like toys, but they can kindle a desire and bring pleasure. This includes BDSM-attributes and equipment, erotic costumes, edible paints and linen, massage oils, stimulant creams, lubricants and much more.
In general, if you dream about something, most likely, it already exists in a specialized store. It remains only to look into it.